Manifestation of My Ideal
You are what you attract. And back in the day, I was very quick to blame the men. But in recent year, I have found that I have to take full responsibility for who I attracted. I have free will. I could’ve seen the signs and walked away, yet I didn’t. And I had to ask myself why. To be honest, it was so simple. I didn’t have a set of standards for the men who wanted to pursue me. So, without rules and consequences, anything goess. They could behave any way they wanted to because I didn’t require anything. It was a gut punch to my spirit.
The day I realized this, I got out a piece of paper and a pencil and began to write a list of criteria for my ideal man.
He must be good with his hands. The desire to want to build things, cook for me and rub my feet is strong.
He must be affectionate. I deserve love in its physical form. He must love giving and receiving hugs, kisses and cuddles.
Loyal. I do not want to worry about what he says or how he behaves when I am not in his presence. He will be virtuous in his words and actions.
Teach me something. I have to be able to learn something that I don’t know from him, whether it’s a skill, activity or a way of thinking. He must expand my mind.
Patient. I can be a handful. I am stubborn and you will be unable to control me, so give me grace when I have a lot going on.
Kind. He must be a gentleman. He sees me as his partner not competition. He understands that sometimes I don’t want advice, just a safe space to share my problems.
Funny. He has to make me snort when I laugh. He must be able to keep up with my wit and dry humor.
In Therapy/Healing/Feeling. This should be self-explanatory. The world is very different since 2020 and if he hasn’t spoken to anyone professionally about how these changes are affecting him, then we are not going to be aligned.
Wants a family. I want to have children someday and luckily for me, I put some eggs in the freezer. He can come with children into the relationship, but understand I want a child, as well.
Financially Independent/Responsible. Also self-explanatory. I need a man who can take care of himself, his bills, with the ability to take a vacation 2-4 times a year.
Honest. No more liars, Lord. I just ask that he tells me the truth, even if it hurts because if you were wrong to do whatever you did, you should be man enough to own up and be honest about it. Respect me enough to tell me the truth.
Handsome. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but I will know. With one look in the eye, I will see all of him- mind, body and soul.
There are other things on that list that are none of your business, but the big shareable stuff is here. A lady’s got to keep some things for herself.
What’s on your list? And if you don’t have one yet, what are you waiting for? Create one today! You can’t manifest if you don’t know what (or who) you’re looking for!
Sending light and love,
Maya Lynne
